Below are ways to end a relationship
KNOW THE RIGHT TIME AND MOMENT:
Most times, you just want to tell him/her about it at any time or any moment you feel it is right. It is a poor choice to want to talk about ending your relationship at a party, social gathering, in the car or doing some domestic task together such as grocery shopping or while having a nice dinner together.
He/She will be caught off guard and will be shocked, causing the moment to be ruined. No matter when or how you break the news, it should be done at the right moment and at the right time.
There is never going to be a perfect time to break up with someone , but try to have as much control over the time as you can, rather than blurting it out over brunch with friends.
Be respectful. If your partner asks you why you’re breaking up with them, be honest — it could help them have better relationships in the future. But don’t insult them or try to hurt them.
Make a clean break. If you really want to be friends, that’s fine. But if you’re just saying “let’s be friends” to let your partner down easier … don’t. It can lead to more hurt feelings. Even if you plan to stay friends, give your partner some space. It may help to take a break from seeing or talking to each other for awhile.
Stick with your decision. If you feel like you’re doing the right thing, don’t let your partner try to convince you to stay together. It’s normal for someone to cry or get upset during a breakup, and that can be really hard to deal with. But feeling bad or guilty isn’t a reason to stay in a relationship.
BE HONEST AND TRUTHFUL:
Being open and honest about the reason for
ending the relationship is very important. The other party may cite many reasons why the relationship should continue and may even try talking you out of your decision.
It is important, however, to remain honest about your feelings toward the other party as well as your reason for wanting to end the relationship. Always be sincere, regardless of the long-term outcome because you will be better able to be at peace with your decision.
DO IT IN PERSON:
Ending your relationship is usually a distressing period for both parties. Most persons would want to bring the romantic relationship to a close through phone calls, text messaging even using emails but this is totally wrong, although doing this means it’s not necessary to look at the expression on his/her face and if it is by text, you don’t even need to talk.
However the case may be, this really is not a way to finish a romantic relationship peacefully. This approach defeats the whole essence of having an appropriate and dignified ending to your relationship peacefully. To do it right, you have to do it in person.
ENSURE BOTH OF YOU ARE READY FOR IT:
For a relationship to end in an appropriate manner, both parties must be involved or else you will end up hurting the other. So whether you are ready or not, you should also try to know if your spouse is ready at the moment.
In essence, when your spouse or partner is not ready to end the relationship and you throw it to his/her face, this can be very devastating and in most cases will eat up the one that is hurt and might eventually cause them to do something drastic that you might regret all your life.
DO NOT AVOID BEFORE BREAKING UP .
Most lovers who want to end a relationship try to avoid their partner and distance themselves with silly excuses. Understand that your partner deserves to know what’s going on in your mind and has every right to know the truth about your feelings.
You can express your views that you’re not happy in the relationship, but you should never ignore your partner’s calls or avoid them in person.
At times, it may just be a phase or a misunderstanding that created all the differences.
Before you seriously consider ending the relationship, give it some time to see if both of you can better your relationship and make it work first.
STOP THE BLAMES AND ACCUSATIONS:
Most times, breakups can be one-sided or mutual depending on the parties involved. Whether you are ending your relationship based on mutual agreement or on personal preference, there is no reason to throw blames or accusations at each other. Throwing in accusations usually brings in conflicts and also causes the break up not to end on a good note.
Parties will end up leaving the relationship bitter and resentful toward each other despite the good experiences they may have had together. Each individual should instead come to terms with the fact that he/she is not perfect and contributed to the break-up in some way.
KNOW THE CAUSE:
Knowing the cause and the genesis of the break is a great way of knowing how to end it.
Generally, breakups occur for several reasons and it isn’t until you understand the reason why the relationship is going to end that you can have an appropriate ending.
This is because knowing the reason for the end will give room for both parties involved to accept the breakup and move on. If the break up appears to be unexpected, one party or both may be so shocked that he/she may go into depression or may even suffer a form of temporary insanity.
In a nutshell, sudden break-ups are never an appropriate way of ending relationships peacefully. The outcome is better when you know the cause, accept the end and then move on.
BE SERIOUS ABOUT IT:
Breakups are never something anyone prays for when going into a relationship, so you should understand that it is not an enviable and pleasurable situation and you should be serious about it if you are going to end the relationship.
Although most people feel it’s great to create a scenario that will leave their partner hanging, fed up and finally walk away, I tell you, it only makes you look like a coward. As a man or woman full of dignity and respect, you should always be clear of this situation.
Deal with this appropriately and with a sincere attitude and be more practical with the situation, while giving proper consideration to your partner.
BE CERTAIN ABOUT IT:
Having mixed feelings about ending your relationship can be annoying and can also mess with your heart and eventually your partner will sense it at some points.
When this happens, it surely reduces your worth.
When you think of ending your relationship peacefully and you decide to have a conversation about it, you should be certain of what you want.
If you are still confused about your feelings regarding the relationship, you should delay the conversation until you are absolutely sure.
Sending an unclear message to your partner will only result in unnecessary heartache and a messy breakup. Be sure and make it clear that your decision to move on is final.
Making a clean break may be hard to do, but it can help you focus on moving forward. Resist the urge to post bad things about your ex on Facebook or other social media — it can lead to a lot of embarrassment and regret. Finally, try not to feel bad about yourself. Your relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you — or that you’ll never find love again.
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