Being intimate means more than just getting physical with your partner. Having sexual intimacy with your partner creates a deep emotional connection that contributes to a more satisfying sexual bond. Not everyone will find it easy to develop sexual intimacy and connect with their spouse during sex. That’s why we’re looking at 6 ways you can deepen your bond with your partner through sexual intimacy.
Intimacy is at the heart of a strong relationship. Intimacy is about knowing someone deeply and being able to be completely free in that person’s presence. It is an emotional state that is often reserved for just one person. Ideally, sex in a loving relationship should be the physical embodiment of intimacy. It should come from a place of love and connection. Within a relationship the two are inextricably linked: intimacy builds sex and sex builds intimacy.
However, sex also is just a physical act. Within a relationship, sex is the most intimate act, but it can also be an act without consent, an act which is paid for, or a mere physical exchange. A one-night stand is a perfect example of sex without an intimate relationship. Both men and women can enjoy the sex of a one-night stand, but it is a physical act rather than a loving act.On the other hand, it can be argued that there is nothing more intimate than vulnerably offering yourself to someone in the physical act of sex, therefore connecting the two terms again, even in the case of a one-night stand.
When it comes to sexual intimacy, there is nothing better than knowing that you are desirable to another person. It is so thrilling to know that you are attractive and that given the opportunity, this person would be all ready to make love with you.
But what people forget is that people wanting to make love with you goes way beyond the ego boost you get when someone is attracted to you.A person who is dissatisfied with their life will be more prone to look for external “wants” or “needs” to replace inner peace. They will be inclined to use sex as a way to fill a need they think is not being met, but in searching to fill an unmet need, they are not finding satisfaction within themselves.
As you gain more experience in the world of sexual intimacy, you should begin to find that your happiness and personal validation are not tied to sexual intimacy; rather, sexual intimacy adds to your happiness.
When you are confident in your sex life, you are already fulfilled and comfortable enough to find a sexual partner and be intimate with them.
Sexual intimacy is one of the best pleasures we have in life, but when we use it as a means to inflate our egos we are removing the true potential for connection with another person. It is important to remain mindful of your intentions of having a sexual relationship with someone.
If you are searching to use sex as a means to boost your ego, it will be easy to find several people willing to boost your ego in exchange for a few minutes of pleasure. But if you are looking for someone to be intimate with on a deeper level, you will find that your list of possible mates will drastically drop because you are being more selective with who you are sharing your intimacy.
Practicing mindfulness allows us not only to find a partner we actually love but also to serve that love, that relationship, rather than being enslaved by the constant craving for affirmation and external validation. This means that you want to be a good lover for your partner and are not looking for an external validation. When you are mindful of your intentions, you are also more likely to consider your partner.
When you are in this position where you consider your partner’s needs alongside with your own, you will find yourself making changes to be the best version of you because it will be of benefit to you and your partner.
The goal with sexual intimacy is not to gain physical pleasure, but also gain a connection with another person and practicing mindfulness in your own life will open you up to opportunities of great love and great connection.
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